Hello. In February my 9 year old boy started having what we call episodes. He has them about 4 times a day and 5 in his sleep.
He just calls out and drops to the floor. He goes pale and his heart races for the duration. After about 30 secs he comes out of them but always grabs at things and seems out of it for a few more seconds. Anyway the docs refering him to specialists to see what it is.
If any one has any ideas??? Anything similar.
He ALWAYS wakes up with one.
BUT what I need Help with.
We think it may be mental but have no idea why.
He has always been good at school and really well behaved at home.He has 3 younger siblings and loves helping out. Until recently.
Then his behaviour has just changed. He smashes things up.
Breaks all our rules. Doesnt care about upsetting his siblings. He has changed his personality. He doesnt seem to hear us when we ask him to do something. He never answers when we speak to him. He wont make conversation anymore.
He is constantly fidgeting, eats standing up, always throwing things, swinging, climbing, writing on furniture on walls and ripping posters down etc. He is constantly putting things in his mouth Im worried he could choke. His cant sit still at school anymore and is always rocking on his chair. He used to be the brightest in the class but is now slipping. You cant read his writing anymore.
He cant seem to control his bowels and is often in a mess.
We went on holiday last week and everyone was just staring at him. He was constantly touching things he shouldnt and talking to complete strangers happily sitting at their table without being invited. He would run round bumping into people and not care.He never shows any remorse for anything. He even pooed in the swimming pool and they had to close it but he wasnt bothered.
He has changed.
Is this normal or is it pre teen or can children have breakdowns.
Please any advice on how to manage his behaviour because he doesnt care what we do and will stare at us as he tries to wind us up even more.
I dont want to smack him. His dad did and my son slapped him round the face. He has no respect for us.
I want to help him. I want my son back. I feel I have been a good mum for 8 years and now all my work is being unravelled as I lose patience with him all the time.
We are trying desperately to ignore bad behaviour and reward good but its hard and how can you ignore him smashing things up and not punish him with three others watching?
Parenting help please.