1st off..I LOVE being home with my 5 month old son everyday & taking care of him & my husband!!
At times I do feel guilty for not working (I know mommyhood is a ft job though lol). Here’s some history:
I was supported by my gma 100% til I was 19 when she remet her highschool sweetie & decided to marry him & gave me 2 wks notice to get a ft job & my own apartment. I lived in a 1 room efficiency & worked in sales & waited tables for about 5 years….I struggled but I was extremely independent. I put off school to work & pay my bills (I got 1 semester in..ugh!) So I feel like a failure there..even though I still plan to finish 1 day…..Then I met my husband right before I got into apt leasing, where I worked for about 1.5 yrs.
When we found out we were prego, we decided I’d continue to work throughout my pregnancy/or until I paid off my credit cards (he’d take a car payment but no credit debt! LOL)..so I got to quit my job at almost 7.5 months to stay home & rest before the baby came.
As I was driving 50 miles each way to & from work everyday…and with the price of gas..I was extremely grateful that I was able to do that.
After our son was born we made the decision that I’d stay home with our boy instead of returning to work. Mostly because the benefit of raising our son ourselves would be better than basically paying & working to be away from him…we’d break even. (ie: the cost of gas, daycare lunches, etc/….would be my paycheck). We plan on having 1 more child, hopefully a girl in another year or so..my husband said I can stay home til they’re both in school…then work pt after if I want.
My husband has a really good job in which he gets to work from home 75% of the time & travel about once a month for about a week. He made just over 6 figures last year with his salary, bonus, stocks, etc… so we really dont want for much…we’re super lucky to be such a young new family & have so much (mostly due to him lol)..new house, 2 cars, nice things..furniture…etc..
Now we don’t “need” what I made (he made that just from his bonus & stocks) for monthly expenses….it would be nice to add the patio, pool, redo the kitchen but its not necessary to survive yknow?
Anywho…do any of you other mommas feel guilty being so dependent on your signficant others? Regardless if its yours, his or both your money…its still strange when you go from contributing to the family to not contributing…I feel guilty buying an outfit or getting my hair done. He told me to just put everything on the card when I grocery shop, shop for me, etc….
I’m just so confused…and I feel like I’m not contributing to our family. I was raised by workaholic & not involved woman/moms so I know the value of my being here to raise my son & I dont regret my decision one bit…..its just hard to swallow I guess.
Plus I dont know what I’m gonna do for his birthday…or Christmas…or our Anniversary….it feels SO WEIRD & not right to buy him a gift using the money he gave me or to put it on our credit card (all mine are closed now lol). I mean I did get b-day $$$ for my b-day and I’m probably gonna use most of that to get him a gift (he REALLY wants a PS3) but still…everyone who gave me that said it was for me to get something special for me (so much for that new laptop lol).
Anyways…I think I’m done rambling =) thank you all for your advice I really appreciate it!!